Skylight: Remembering someone

Remembering someone

ferns 1 When someone has left, moved a long way away or died, it can feel like they’ve been ripped away from you. It’s important to know that you can continue having a special link and bond with that person, especially if they have been really close to you. They are part of your life – part of who you are.

Remembering and finding ways to stay connected with someone means you can keep your link with them. It’s a really personal thing. Here are some ideas some young people suggest:

if possible, keep in touch with them by phone, visits, letters, texting or email
if it’s not possible, write a letter to the person, saying how you’re feeling and just keep it, leave it somewhere special or throw it away - whatever suits
visit somewhere you’d both been together - or do something you’d done together
make a photo board or scrapbook to help you remember good times
talk aloud to the person - in your room, to their photo, or at a special place. Say how you really feel - whatever that is
write them a song, poem or story
dedicate something you make or create to them
plant a tree or flowers
visit a special place
wear their clothes - like an old T-shirt or hat
spend anniversary days and special holidays - like Christmas - with others who miss them too. Talk about the person with others. Swap memories.
make a special Christmas tree decoration with the person’s name on
light a candle to remember them

Read more for young people...

"I miss my Dad. I get to see him about once a year, but I remember him a lot and hope he remembers me. I’ve made a photo board above my bed of him and me."
Anna

"I knew she was moving but I didn’t want to believe it. I didn’t know how to say goodbye. I just said, See ya, and walked away. She had been my best friend since I was a little kid."
Rose

"When I remember her I bring her back to life. I keep her in my heart."
Sally

Remembering someone

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