Everyone's different, but we all get angry sometimes.
Anger is OK - it’s normal, it is part of life, and it is a strong and powerful emotion. We all need help to learn what to do with our angry feelings. This takes time and practice.
We can be angry without hurting or scaring others. Using violence is never OK.
Think about what’s behind your anger - anger is often a response to other underlying feelings, such as hurt, fear, sadness or guilt. Encourage yourself to look for signs that your anger is building and to use ways to wind down, rather than up - distract yourself, find a quiet place, have a plan for when you do feel out of control.
When you are getting angry try to use some of these strategies to try and cool down:
- walk away
- do something physical
- breathe deeply
- talk it out
- get creative
- listen to music.
Look after yourself, you will cope much better with anger when are eating properly, well rested, getting enough sleep and exercising.
Be the role model for those around you - teach problem solving skills and how to compromise with others.
Get some extra professional help if anger has become destructive or violent. Anger can make life hard, but learning new skills will help you make positive changes in your life.
When you are managing an angry child or young person - KEEP CALM
- staying calm doesn’t mean you’re passive and not doing anything. It means keeping your head, while others are losing theirs!
- take several deep breaths before you respond or sit down for a minute, and remind yourself you are the adult, and that you can manage this situation well
- take time out until you calm down enough to manage the situation constructively
- decide not to take what an angry child is saying to you, personally
- if you say or do something which you hadn’t meant to, say you're sorry and set things right as necessary
KIDS MAY FORGET WHAT YOU SAID TO THEM, BUT THEY WILL NEVER FORGET HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL.