Abusive relationships

— Skylight Trust

​Partner abuse is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

What is partner abuse?

Partner abuse can take different forms, and could be physical, emotional or sexual. 

Some signs of partner abuse are when your partner:

  • controls the finances
  • doesn't allow you to do things like get a job
  • stops you seeing family, whānau and friends
  • uses insults - like calling you lazy, fat, or stupid, or other names that make you feel bad
  • is very jealous
  • threatens to leave, kill, or hurt you or the children
  • threatens or hurts family, whānau pets
  • slaps, hits, punches, chokes, pushes, burns you or the children
  • hurts or threatens you or the children with weapons or objects
  • forces you into sexual acts you don't want
  • destroys property
  • takes away the car keys.

Partner abuse is a sign of an unhealthy relationship

In an unhealthy relationship there is:

  • lack of trust and openness
  • one person has power over the other
  • one person is physically, sexually and/or emotionally hurtful to the other.

If you feel you are in an abusive relationship please see the organisations listed which may be able to help you. Skylight can provide counselling support to you and children or please contact the resource centre for further information.

Resources Available at Skylight

Skylight is here to help you through difficult times. We can assist you in a variety of ways with information appropriate for your situation. You are welcome to visit us and receive free information and a support pack from our resource centre and borrow books from the specialist library. We also facilitate Professional Development training and offer Counselling support services for children, young people, family/whānau and individuals who are experiencing tough times.

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